"Mormon thought is policed to the point where 12-year-old boys and girls are regularly and formally interrogated by adult male clergy about their sexual fantasies, activities, and masturbation habits....
I was absurdly devout; when I went to hear Dallin H. Oaks speak to the members in our area and he told us that year’s severe drought was caused by Mormon teenagers having sex, I believed it. SEX → DROUGHT. Check. I elected to take astronomy, like most Mormons in my high school, so that I would have a head start helping my husband run his own solar system once we got to be Gods. Yep. I was so happy I never had to experience getting old, because Jesus was coming again when I was in my twenties, so I’d stay that way forever."www.patheos.com
Each one of those beliefs is absolutely crazy. No, teenagers are not regularly interrogated about sex fantasies. Underage sex does not cause droughts. Mormon children do not study astronomy to run their own solar system. The end of the world is not going to happen within the next 10 years (unless Hillary is elected.) Only a complete crazy person would say those things.
Those crazy practices are exaggerations of good religious practices. Rachel probably exaggerated what really happened, as angry ex-Mormons do. Yes, teenagers are interviewed and told that masturbation is unhealthy. That is a good thing. Yes, sin and iniquity could lead to natural phenomena. Yes, the Second coming of Jesus will happen some time in the distant future. Studying astronomy? Not sure where that came from.
But there was one moment that really sent Rachel over the edge.
"It was a seminary lesson taught to me that broke my unwavering faith....
It’s hard to come back from that kind of existential free fall. Part of the nausea and motion sickness is still with me. Sure, I’d been through the awkward object lessons in Sunday school when you see your teacher has brought cupcakes, only to find out that each one has been licked already. Non-virgins, the teacher explains, are like licked cupcakes: who would want them?"www.patheos.com
What would enrage a feminist more? The metaphor behind this lesson, or that there were cupcakes in the room and she could not eat them?
Now, isn't this a sensible lesson that high schoolers should hear? A woman who loses her virginity before marriage loses something very precious about herself and will have a harder time finding a good husband. This is simple truth.
Like before, Rachel seems to illogically exaggerate the metaphor to make it sound crazy:
"Though I cringed a bit at “prized possession” and, well, polygamy being God’s will, to be continued once we all got into Heaven (I often thought about one day sharing my husband and how much growth I had to do before I got there spiritually), the licked cupcake metaphor seemed an apt and sensible warning.
When I told my mother that our Bishop made me very uncomfortable, the way he’d needle me to go on and on about every single little thing my boyfriend and I did (necking and petting, at most) in great detail, she said I was uncomfortable because he was a man of God and I was a slut. I was incredibly hurt. I took it to heart. I knew no man wanted a non-virgin; not for a wife. And a wife was what I aspired to be, above anything else.
But it went further. I was taught that God, Himself, turns His back on women who have sex before or outside of marriage. God, Himself, turns His back on women who have been raped."www.patheos.com
Firstly, the cupcake metaphor does not mean a woman is nothing more than a "possession." This is like saying Thomas The Train is an oppressive television show because it compares people to objects, trains. The metaphor also has nothing to do with polygamy. Rachel is inserting her own strawman meanings here.
Secondly, Rachel complains about being asked about details of her intimacy when she only necked and "petted" at most, and yet suggests that she was a non-virgin. Why would a mother call her daughter a slut for only kissing? Why would Rachel be incredibly hurt to find out that no man wants a non-virgin? Was there something Rachel was afraid to admit?
Third, only a lunatic would think God turns His back on a rape victim. Why would anybody believe this? Another strawman meaning she invented in my opinion.
"My seminary teacher said that she knew police were attending D.A.R.E. classes in our schools, and that they were advising kids in the event of an assault not to antagonize the attacker, not to try to fight back. This compliance statistically greatly improved your chances of survival.
But this wasn’t what we were supposed to do. Our teacher made herself very clear. She said the righteous thing to do was “everything in your power” to get murdered instead of raped, because it’s better to be dead than lose your virginity.... I knew that if God wanted you dead for getting raped, then he was not moral."www.patheos.com
Again, Rachel seems to exaggerate sensible advice to make it sound crazy and justify her exit from Mormonism. Should you fight back if you are getting raped? Of course!! Only an idiot wouldn't. But Rachel equates all cases of defense against rape to trying to get murdered. This is illogical and dangerous. I doubt Rachel's teacher told her it is better to be dead than raped. But in my opinion it is better to be dead than to sit there and allow yourself to be raped and not fight back at all. You would go your whole life knowing you didn't even try to stop it. It would be hard to live with yourself.
Rachel shows an incredible lack of critical thinking because she twists everything some seminary teacher tells her and decides this is solid Mormon cannon. No, Rachel, even if your seminary teacher did say such horrible things as you claim, she was just a seminary teacher. Not even a priesthood holder, just a woman giving her opinion. Where in the scriptures does it say God wants you dead for being raped? And why is this such an issue for you?
"The most precious thing women have, our teacher explained, is our virginity and our ability to bear children. It hadn’t particularly hit home before, but now suddenly I realized I was being evaluated like livestock. Was I just a tithe-payer generating machine? What about rape survivors? Abused children? The culture I loved, I realized, hated me."www.patheos.com
What about rape survivors and abused children? Why is that an issue? If that is so important to you, why didn't you ask your teacher about it? Rachel says her head was spinning, and in my opinion it was spinning for excuses, the hamster wheel. Feminists caught in their immodesty look for excuses and use this kind of language. "You are just treating me like livestock!"
"I wish I could say it’s all exhilarating when you do get free. A lot of things certainly are: coffee, sleeping in on Sundays, R-rated movies, the thrill of analytical thinking, and your own opinions. But a lot of it is still tortured: sex, ties to community, trust."www.patheos.com
Sleeping in instead of working. Watching corruptive movies. Coffee. Yep, those things are the same as analytical thinking, and Rachel certainly has demonstrated her new-found ability to think critically.
"We tirelessly fought each other, Mormons and non-Mormons, in the papers, in the legislature, in our homes.
We sneaked cases of Rolling Rock into our dorms. They drank whole bottles of Robitussin. They skirted around the sex prohibition with anal and oral, and hated themselves and each other deeply for it. I had vaginal intercourse, and loved my body for the first time."
Notice how Rachel talks about "we", and that suddenly becomes "they" when she mentions anal intercourse. Then she specifies that she had "vaginal intercourse." haha
Again, I find it curious that Rachel is so profoundly disturbed to learn that non-virgins have lost valuable virtue if that was not the case for her. Why would that be such a problem if she were a virgin? Why would she have to convince herself that virgnity is not something to be valued? Why would her own mother call her a slut?
"One in four women are sexually assaulted during their time in college. Elizabeth Smart was kidnapped, repeatedly raped, polygamously married, and forced to wear a veil. She has spoken out against the “licked cupcake” culture that condemns even her after her ordeal. Some Mormons rally to ordain women. Others march for tolerance of gays and lesbians in the church.
When I was Mormon, women wearing pants to church was unfathomable. Now, on Facebook, I see notices for days of rebellion against church patriarchy by wearing pants to meetings."
The 1 in 4 statistic is a lie, and ex-Mormons only ever bring it up to attack BYU, which has almost no rape ever. If feminists had their way and BYU's moral code were dismantled, rape rates would skyrocket. A woman who avoids sexual encounters before marriage is less likely to be raped.
Elizabeth Smart was not kidnapped by a Mormon. And she did not speak out against valuing virginity. She spoke out against abstinence only education in schools. Not even close to the same thing as the cup-cake metaphor. And in no way does Mormon culture condemn a rape victim after her ordeal. Rachel is inventing this out of thin air.
This all somehow relates to the Ordain Women movement, I guess. Patriarchy is rape, remember? And the way you can fight it is by wearing pants. Oooh, so empowering! Wasn't it a female seminary teacher you were complaining about this whole time?
The next article written by Rachel on her website was: "8 Things I Learned In A Mental Hospital."
I don't bring this up to attack Rachel. I wish her well. But I wish that she would stop obsessing and blaming other people for her problems. It is beyond annoying when you tell a woman something and she exaggerates it to the point that it is no longer recognizable. The points that your seminary teacher made were instructive, but they became illogically exaggerated and twisted to mean something unscriptural.
You have chosen feminism over spiritual truth, in my opinion. If that's your choice, own it. What core doctrine do you fundamentally disagree with?







